June 2011
“[O]ne of the main things [I want] is for the female voice to be just as...”
– Liz Phair, Venus, Summer 2003 (source)
I just wanted to leave you with a little tidbit that conveys how fucking awesome Liz Phair is. That’s all.
(via oneweekoneband)
Things that bother me:
criptheatrequeer:
classragespeaks:
criptheatrequeer:
When folks who don’t have a lot of excess spending money because they are in school, but whose every necessary expense is taken care of by their parents, act like they understand me when I’m talking about poverty.
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ABSOLUTELY. This is something that bothers me a great deal as well, and I’ve met tons of these people in college...
On exercising whilst crazy →
rydra-wong:
Sometimes when I’m climbing, people ask me how I got to be so flexible.
Then I lie.
With people I don’t know, I’ll say something vague about doing a lot of yoga. With people I know fairly well, I may make a crack about having got stuck in hospital for a while with nothing to do except yoga.
People who know me very well already know this: I got to be as...
May 2011
that awkward moment when...
…you’re acutely aware that it’s getting later and later but feel the need to pretend you aren’t, because you’re talking to friends and they might be insulted that you’re paying attention to the clock instead of them.
(though i should emphasize, as said friends will almost certainly see this post, that it’s nothing personal!)
my partner is busy studying for his last exam, and has been for a few days, so we only get to talk maybe once a day, and that’s usually before bed when he’s exhausted. times like this, it’s like i’m holding out my hand, only he’s looking the other way and there’s no answering clasp. and after a while i stop reaching out so often.
no blame to him, let me be...
my partner’s mother has radically redecorated his room, and it makes me a bit sad because it means the place i first experienced sex, and how beautiful it could be, no longer really exists.
“To laugh often and to love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and...”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson.
My life’s agenda. :)
SO YOU'VE MADE A THING: how to deal with it, for...
emilyswash:
so you’ve made a thing! that’s great. did you show it to people?
yeah!
awesome! how exciting! how did they react?
they didn’t like it.
WELL OBVIOUSLY THEY DIDN’T, WHAT WERE YOU THINKING. TRY AGAIN.
so you’ve made a thing! that’s great. did you show it to people?
yeah, and they liked it!
no, they didn’t.
yes, they did!
well they aren’t going to like your next thing.
oh fuck...
NOT NEEDING OTHER PEOPLE'S APPROVAL AND...
emilyswash:
…
uh
well
if
..ok i’ll get back to you on that
#LOVE AND APPRECIATE ME!!! but not too much or i’ll get scared and angry. but not too little or i’ll get scared and angry. VALIDATE ME VALIDATE ME PAY ATTENTION TO ME. BUT FUCK OFF. BUT BE MY SIDE ALWAYS. BUT DON’T EVEN FUCKING LOOK AT ME!!
Omg I'm normal about something! →
liquornspice:
Are you guys also like *horror what have I done?! face* when people ask to make plans? Cuz i’m now in the habit of giving disclaimers before I commit to ANYTHING. I have legit anxiety attacks sometimes when people are like, “Hey it’s Tuesday let’s make plans for this weekend! What do you think you’ll wanna do 4 days from now into the nebulous, unseeable future? I’m flexible! Just...
here's a dichotomy to work into your taxonomy of...
Although I don’t know what it means: people who regularly in casual conversation talk about what they were like as children or teenagers, versus those that don’t. It depends to some extent on the type of childhood they had, of course (some childhoods have more conversationally entertaining stories, some have more stuff to be kept private) but I’m mostly not even talking about anecdotes as much as...
it totally floors me that lots of people I know...
quixotess:
ourcatastrophe:
or cloak the same sentiment with political jargon and call someone “sex-negative”. like, has the entire feminist movement passed you by? frigid/sluts, we cannot win, the point is to break down both concepts.
it feels exactly the same as being in school and having to laugh and be ok with overtly sexual conversation, with discussions on the bangability of other...
gender--what are the internet cues and etiquette,... →
jjhunter:
It’s a great subject, and I’d love to read up on it; does anyone have any good reading to recommend or journals of people who have written about their experiences and decisions re: how to present their gender identity online? Have you personally had the experience of someone assigning to you a non-neutral gender pronoun that was wrong, wrong, wrong? Is it common or rare?...
Don't Have to Do Nothing: Be Free and (Still) Be... →
blackfeminismlives:
Y’all. Don’t get sick of Lucille Clifton on my account but I swear she just don’t run out of brilliant life-saving gifts. So here is another one. In 1985 in the special 15th anniversary issue of Essence Magazine coordinated by Cheryll Y. Greene, Clifton wrote about the true freedom that women can give to each other: “to fail and not be a failure.” When Lucille...
"The Narcissists Defending Dominique Strauss-Kahn"... →
[Bernard-Henri] Levy, erstwhile defender of admitted rapist Roman Polanski, declared himself outraged by the treatment his friend Strauss-Kahn was subjected to after his arrest on charges of attempted rape, sexual abuse, and unlawful imprisonment. “[N]othing in the world can justify a man being thus thrown to the dogs,” he wrote. If Levy wanted to argue that the American justice system is brutal...
“Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy...”
– Jennifer James (via ilijean)
“I just think it’s possible to be honest and non-defensive about what’s fucked up...”
– Sady Doyle
this—if it isn’t about you, don’t make it about you.
[putting a new face on fat] →
fatandtheivy:
When I announce that I am fat, my body doesn’t look any bigger or smaller, but our assumptions about fat become striking. Fat is seen as “the other”— the poor, the uneducated, the lazy, the dumb, the minority, the ugly, the distasteful. But I don’t fit that mold; I’m white, educated, driven, intelligent, and generally fierce. If I don’t...
